Category: Life issues

The Day God Whispered, “I Got You.”

This week has been heavy.
From personal tasks to work pressure, business concerns, and the constant noise that comes with living in Nigeria. It has been one of those weeks where everything felt loud at the same time.

But in the middle of all that noise, something gentle came back to my mind…
Something I had almost forgotten.
Something God used to remind me again that I am not alone, and neither are you.

On Sunday morning, I left home with a quiet worry sitting somewhere at the back of my mind. I wasn’t panicking, but my mind was doing calculations:


“What if this? What if that?”
“How will I manage?”

I had money, that wasn’t the issue, but there was that subtle tension that reminded me of January. That feeling of, “Let me calculate everything well before I end up stranded.”

I didn’t even realize the cash I carried wasn’t enough for my entire transport that day.

As I headed to church, I tried to stop a free bus. Normally, I can identify them easily, but I was already late, and they didn’t stop🤣. So I stopped a Keke and entered. Another man entered behind me, but honestly, I didn’t pay him any attention. I was lost in my thoughts.

Then he suddenly said,
“Are you a lawyer?”

It felt almost random, but that one question snapped me out of the spiral in my head.
We had a short conversation. Nothing deep. But it was enough to interrupt my anxiety.

And here’s where my story and God’s intentionality collided.

I was still quietly calculating the transport fare and offering in my head when the man asked me,
“How much are you paying the driver?”

I showed him the money, thinking he wanted change.
But when he was dropping, he simply said:

“I’ve paid for you. Don’t worry.”

He didn’t know me.
He wasn’t going to church.
He wasn’t collecting my number.
He just paid and left.

Right there, God whispered something without words.

Because what happened on Sunday wasn’t just favour. It was God interrupting my thoughts to show me:

“I see you.
I know your needs.
I know your fears.
And before the thought becomes a prayer, I’ve already answered.”

Many times, we say “God is intentional,” but this was one of those rare moments where I actually saw it in motion again in a way I had never had it
Before the worry could settle, provision appeared.
Before the fear could take root, help found me.
Before I even asked, answers were waiting at the bus stop.

And honestly, these are the things that struck me the most:

God used a simple conversation to interrupt my anxiety.
That man didn’t talk to me randomly.
He pulled me out of the spiral happening in my mind.

He paid my fare before I could worry about it enough to even pray.
That is not coincidence.
That is intentional love.

God didn’t just provide once, He doubled it.
Morning: free transport.
Afternoon: another free transport.
Same day.
Same need.
Same lesson:
“I got you.”

He preserved my offering.
It mattered to me, and God honoured that desire.

He reminded me that I am not forgotten in Nigeria’s chaos.
Nigeria is loud.
Stressful.
Draining.
But in the midst of that noise, God whispered something soft, personal, and undeniable:
“You’re not alone here.”

Even when the week felt heavy, God highlighted a moment of light.

Just when my mind began to sink under everything happening, God brought this memory to the surface while journaling, almost like saying:

“Don’t forget what I did.
I’m still doing it.”

And when I think about this deeply, my story becomes a reminder,  not just to me, but to anyone reading this:

  • God is present in the small things
  • God answers before we call
  • God provides even when we don’t know how to ask
  • God sees every thought before it becomes a burden
  • And truly… we are never alone

And here is the truth my Sunday experience is preaching louder than any sermon:

God is intentional about you.
God is mindful of you.
God is committed to you.
And you will never be stranded in this life.

Because what happened on Sunday wasn’t just provision.
It is a pattern.
A signature.
A reminder of God’s steady hand over my life.

And the same God who went ahead of my thoughts on Sunday…
is already in your tomorrow, preparing answers, help, peace, and provision, before your mind even gets the chance to worry.

So let this be your reminder today:

You are seen.
You are known.
You are carried.
And you are never alone.

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God Speaks in Stillness


“Write the vision; make it plain on tablets, so he may run who reads it. For still the vision awaits its appointed time; it hastens to the end, it will not lie. If it seems slow, wait for it; it will surely come; it will not delay.”
Habakkuk 2:2–3 (ESV)


We often associate waiting with emptiness, a holding pattern, a pause button on life. But in God’s hands, waiting is not a void; it is a sacred place where revelation is refined.

Habakkuk didn’t receive his vision in the middle of action, but in the middle of questioning. He was frustrated. He cried out to God about injustice and confusion in the land. And it was in that moment of pause when he stopped speaking and started listening that God said, “Write the vision.”

It’s often when everything else quiets down that vision becomes loud.

When we are too busy, overwhelmed, or trying to force our way through, we can miss divine clarity. But in stillness, distractions fall away. Your ears sharpen. Your spirit calms. And your heart becomes tender soil for vision to take root.

Vision is not always flashy. Sometimes it comes gently, like a whisper in prayer, a verse that won’t leave you, or a recurring nudge you keep ignoring. But make no mistake vision is God’s way of showing you where to run, even when you’re standing still.

And here’s the key: the vision will come. Not on your timeline, but on heaven’s. If it seems slow, wait for it. It’s not lying to you. It’s not teasing you. It’s maturing. And so are you.

What God shows you in stillness will direct you in movement.

Reflection :

What has God shown you in your quiet seasons, dreams, instructions, or burdens? Write them down. Ask God to help you steward them while you wait.

Prayer:

Father, help me to honor the still places in my life. Quiet my heart so I can hear You clearly. Teach me to treasure what You show me and to trust that every vision has its appointed time. Give me the discipline to write it down, and the faith to wait for its fulfillment. In Jesus’ name, amen.




		
	
			

		
	
	

					
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Not Afraid: Evolve into the Best Version of Yourself
			

				






As a new week begins, many people feel a quiet fear. The fear of failing, of getting it wrong, or of not measuring up. But here is a truth worth holding onto. Mistakes are not the end. They are often the beginning of something better. They are opportunities to grow and evolve.

The pressure to be perfect often stops us from taking meaningful steps forward. But the word of God reminds us that growth comes through the process, not through perfection.

“Though the righteous fall seven times, they rise again.”
Proverbs chapter 24 verse 16

This scripture does not celebrate falling, but it acknowledges that those who walk with God can stumble. What matters most is that they rise each time. Your mistakes do not remove you from God’s plan. Instead, they can shape you into someone wiser and more resilient.

The apostle Paul said something powerful that encourages us in moments of weakness:

“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”
Second Corinthians chapter 12 verse 9

God is not asking for perfection. He is looking for open hearts that are willing to keep going, to keep learning, and to keep growing. Mistakes, when met with faith and humility, become tools that lead us toward transformation.

So this week, choose to keep moving forward.

Give yourself permission to try new things.
Be patient with your progress.
Learn from every experience.
Forgive yourself quickly.
Keep your eyes on the path ahead.

You are not meant to stay where you are. You are created to grow into the person God has called you to be. That journey will include moments of falling, but each one brings the chance to rise stronger than before.

Let this week be a time of courage, growth, and grace. Step forward. Keep going. God is with you.






			

		
	
	

					
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Love Beyond Romance: My Birthday, Valentine’s Day, and Life Lessons
			

									
											
							
 
					

				

February is always a special month for me—not because of romance, but because it gives me time to reflect on love in its truest form. Valentine’s Day, for many, is about romantic gestures and relationships, but for me, it has always been deeper than that. This year, coupled with my birthday on February 7th, I took time to reflect on what love truly means, the importance of respect, and the role of shared faith in relationships.

Love: The Greatest of All

Love is often misunderstood. Many people see it as just a feeling, but the Bible paints a much richer picture of what true love is. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 (NIV) defines love in a way that goes beyond emotions:

“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”



This kind of love is not limited to romantic relationships. It is the love we should have for our friends, family, colleagues, and even strangers. It is selfless, kind, and enduring. As I reflected this month, I realized how much I desire to grow in this kind of love—not just in receiving it, but in giving it freely.

Respect: A Non-Negotiable in Every Relationship

Love without respect is incomplete. You cannot claim to love someone while dishonoring them with your words or actions. Respect is foundational in every relationship—whether it’s friendship, family, marriage, or work relationships.

The Bible emphasizes the importance of respect in different ways:

Romans 12:10 (NIV) says, “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves.” True love requires honoring others and putting their needs and dignity above selfish desires.

Ephesians 4:29 (NIV) reminds us, “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” Our words and actions should reflect the love and respect we have for others.


One lesson I’ve learned recently is that respect should never be compromised. It doesn’t matter how long you’ve known someone or how close you are—respect must remain constant in all relationships.

Shared Faith: The Bond That Strengthens Relationships

Beyond love and respect, faith plays a crucial role in shaping relationships. When two people—whether friends, family, or partners—do not align in their faith, conflicts often arise because their perspectives, values, and priorities differ.

The Bible speaks about the importance of shared faith:

2 Corinthians 6:14 (NIV) says, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” While this verse often applies to marriage, the principle extends to friendships and partnerships—shared faith creates unity and understanding.

Amos 3:3 (NKJV) asks, “Can two walk together, unless they are agreed?” This highlights how agreement in faith strengthens relationships and prevents unnecessary conflicts.


I’ve come to appreciate how shared faith brings peace, understanding, and alignment in relationships. While differences can exist, a common foundation in faith makes it easier to grow together and support one another in life’s journey.







Lessons I’m Taking with Me

This February, I’ve been reminded of several powerful truths about relationships and personal growth:

1. Love is more than words—it is action. It is about patience, kindness, and selflessness.


2. Respect is essential. No matter how close we are to someone, we must always honor them in our words and actions.


3. Shared faith strengthens connections. When people share the same faith, it fosters understanding, unity, and peace.


4. True love is not limited to romance. It is found in friendships, family, and how we treat those around us.


5. Self-love matters. Before seeking love from others, I must first love and value myself the way God does.



Final Thoughts

This month has been a time of deep reflection, growth, and gratitude. As I step into a new year of my life, I am more intentional about nurturing real love, respect, and strengthening my faith alongside those who share it with me.

Love is not just about a single day of celebration—it is a way of life. And when we build relationships on love, respect, and shared faith, they become stronger, more fulfilling, and lasting.

What are some lessons about love and relationships that you’ve learned recently? I’d love to hear your thoughts!

			

		
	
	

					
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STEP OUT: Living beyond borders 3
			

									
											
							
 
					

				






Welcome back to my blog! I’m so glad to have you here again. November was quite a hectic month for me, which is why I had to take some time off the page to catch my breath and reset. But here we are in December—a perfect time to reflect, recharge, and step out boldly. 





Today, I’m excited to share a fresh perspective on living beyond borders, a theme that has been on my heart lately. Be sure to also check out the earlier parts of this series that I’ve published; I believe they’ll inspire and challenge you to embrace a limitless mindset as we wrap up the year.







Part 1





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“Everything You Want is on the Other Side of Fear”







This profound statement resonates deeply with the believer’s journey. Fear—especially the fear of “what ifs”—has a way of sneaking into our lives and quietly keeping us from stepping into the fullness of God’s promises. How often do we hesitate because we worry about others’ opinions or fear stepping outside societal norms? These fears, like unseen chains, can bind us and prevent us from walking in the purpose God has designed for us.





But God’s Word reminds us: 





“For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind” (2 Timothy 1:7). 





Fear does not come from God, and when we allow it to dictate our choices, we stifle God’s work in our lives. We settle for what feels safe, for the comfort of the familiar, and risk missing out on the abundant life Jesus promises in John 10:10.










What if, instead of yielding to fear, we placed our trust in God and took that step of faith? The Bible is filled with stories of individuals who overcame fear to fulfill their God-given destinies. Think of David, who faced Goliath not with fear but with faith in the Lord of Hosts. Or Peter, who stepped out of the boat to walk on water despite the storm around him. These acts of courage were not without challenges, but they demonstrated a profound trust in God’s power and faithfulness.





Four Ways Fear Can Limit Us





Fear Stifles Our Growth





Fear keeps us within the boundaries of the familiar, hindering us from embracing new challenges and opportunities. When we are too afraid to step outside our comfort zones, we miss out on the refining process that helps us grow into the person God created us to be. Just as a seed must break through the soil to grow, we, too, must overcome the fear of the unknown to experience spiritual and personal growth.





Fear Robs Us of Joy and Peace





Fear causes us to focus on the worst-case scenarios, filling our hearts with anxiety and unrest. However, God calls us to live in His peace, which surpasses all understanding (Philippians 4:7). When we let fear take control, we lose sight of the joy found in trusting God and walking in His plans.





Fear Limits Our Faith





Faith and fear cannot coexist. When we allow fear to dominate, we doubt God’s promises and power. This limits our ability to experience His miracles and blessings. Just as the Israelites hesitated to enter the Promised Land because of their fear, we, too, can miss out on God’s best for us when we allow fear to dictate our decisions.





Fear Hinders Our Witness





Fear often silences our voice and keeps us from boldly sharing the gospel or stepping into the call God has placed on our lives. When we let fear hold us back, we miss opportunities to glorify God and impact others for His kingdom. The enemy uses fear as a tool to keep us from walking fully in our purpose and being a light to the world.










The Impact of Fear on Our Growth





When fear takes root in our hearts, it halts our progress and stunts our spiritual, emotional, and personal growth. God calls us to grow in Him, to develop our gifts, and to live a life of abundance. But fear convinces us that we are not enough—that we are unworthy or incapable.





Fear keeps us from trying new things, meeting new people, and embracing God’s plans, even when those plans are beyond our understanding. It limits our ability to see the potential within ourselves and, most importantly, the limitless power of God working in and through us.





However, growth happens when we step into the unknown, trusting that God will guide us. He promises that His grace is sufficient for us and that His strength is made perfect in our weakness (2 Corinthians 12:9). By surrendering our fears to Him, we create space for growth, healing, and transformation.










Breaking Free from Fear





Facing our fears is not about relying on our own strength but leaning on the One who is greater. When we surrender our fears to God, He equips us with His peace and courage. It is through these moments of trust and obedience that we discover the greatness He has placed within us and the plans He has prepared for us.





Action Point





Identify Your Fears: Take a moment to reflect on the fears holding you back. Write them down and commit them to God in prayer.





Find Scriptures to Stand On: Meditate on verses like 2 Timothy 1:7, Isaiah 41:10, and Joshua 1:9. Let God’s promises replace your fears with faith.





Take a Step of Faith: Do one thing this week that challenges your fear—whether it’s having a difficult conversation, starting a new project, or stepping into a leadership role. Trust that God is with you every step of the way.





Speak Life Over Yourself: Declare God’s Word over your life, reminding yourself of who He says you are and His plans for you.










Prayer





Heavenly Father, I come before You, acknowledging the fears that have held me back from walking fully in Your plans. I thank You for reminding me through Your Word that You have not given me a spirit of fear, but of power, love, and a sound mind. Lord, I surrender my fears to You today. Strengthen my faith and help me to trust in Your promises. Give me the courage to step out of my comfort zone and embrace the life You have called me to live. Let Your perfect love cast out every fear in my heart, and may my life bring glory to Your name. In Jesus’ name, I pray, Amen.





Everything you want, everything God has for you, is on the other side of fear. Step into it boldly, knowing that He goes before you, and trust Him to do exceedingly abundantly above all you can ask or imagine.
Ephesians 3:20

			

		
	
	

					
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Becoming Who God Created You to Be: Embracing the Journey
			

									
											
							
 
					

				

Welcome Back to My Blog!





Thank you for joining me again as we explore the journey of becoming who God created us to be. It’s a path often marked by both challenges and growth, shaping us into a truer version of ourselves with each experience. Today, I want to talk more about the process of becoming and share some truths from Scripture to encourage and guide you along the way.








What we are is God’s gift to us. What we become is our gift to God. — Anonymous







Becoming who God intended is rarely a straightforward journey. Just like Joseph, who endured betrayal and hardship, we’re each on a unique path that builds us up and teaches us resilience. God uses every season, no matter how difficult, to prepare us for something greater. Below are some key things to remember along the way.





God uses every season, no matter how difficult it is, to prepare us for something greater.










What to Do When You’re on the Path to Becoming





Don’t Settle





We may be tempted to settle for the familiar or comfortable, but God has greater things in store. “Being confident of this, that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” — Philippians 1:6. Trust that each step of your journey has meaning and resist the urge to stop short of all God has for you.





Stay Humble and Trust God’s Timing
Becoming takes time, and God’s timing is often different from ours. Waiting can feel hard, but remember: “For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.” — Ecclesiastes 3:1. Trust that He knows the right time to bring you into every new season.


Seek Wisdom and Walk in Integrity
Challenges will test us along the way, but God calls us to walk with integrity. “Blessed are those who find wisdom, those who gain understanding.” — Proverbs 3:13. By seeking God’s wisdom and living truthfully, we become stronger and more prepared for His purpose.


Forgive and Let Go
Like Joseph, who forgave his brothers for betraying him, remember to release any resentment and forgive those who have hurt you. Bitterness only holds us back. “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.” — Ephesians 4:32.










What to Avoid on your path to becoming 






Avoid Comparison
Your path is unique, so avoid comparing yourself to others. Comparison can lead to doubt and distraction. “Each one should test their own actions. Then they can take pride in themselves alone, without comparing themselves to someone else.” — Galatians 6:4.


Don’t Seek Validation from Others Over God
People’s opinions come and go, but God’s truth about you is forever. Seek His approval first and foremost. “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.” — Galatians 1:10.


Don’t Settle for Less than God’s Best
Becoming all God intended might mean waiting, but remember that His plans are always good. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” — Jeremiah 29:11.


A Prayer for Your Journey
Lord, thank You for guiding me as I become who You created me to be. Help me to trust in Your timing and to walk humbly and with integrity. Give me the strength to keep moving forward, to forgive easily, and to resist settling for less than Your best. Thank You for shaping me in every season. In Jesus’ name, Amen.


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When Life Seems Tough, Trust in God
			

									
											
							
 
					

				






Life’s struggles can shake our confidence and fill us with fear and doubt. I’ve learned that real strength lies in unwavering trust in God, especially when challenges seem insurmountable. We often want immediate relief from our problems, but God calls us to lean on Him with patience and faith.





In times of adversity, we must remember that God is our refuge, always reliable and unwavering in His love. By building our faith through scripture and embracing patience as a fruit of the Spirit, we can find peace even in life’s darkest moments. Trusting God isn’t about a quick fix; it’s a journey of lifetime assurance.





Remember Nahum 1:7 (NIV): “The Lord is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him.”

			

		
	
	

					
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Discovering Your Identity and Purpose in Christ
			

									
											
							
 
					

				






In a world where identity and purpose are often tangled with career titles, achievements, and social perceptions, it can be easy to feel lost or unsure of who we really are. But for those of us in Christ, our true identity and purpose are secured and defined not by the world, but by God Himself.





Let’s take a journey through Scripture to understand the profound truth of our identity in Christ and the purpose He’s created us to fulfill.





Our Identity in Christ





Being “in Christ” fundamentally changes who we are. When we accept Jesus as our Savior, we’re no longer defined by past mistakes, societal labels, or even personal ambitions. Instead, we are reborn, transformed by the Holy Spirit, and become God’s very own.





We Are a New Creation





In 2 Corinthians 5:17, we’re told, “Therefore if anyone is in Christ [that is, grafted in, joined to Him by faith in Him as Savior], he is a new creature [reborn and renewed by the Holy Spirit]; the old things [the previous moral and spiritual condition] have passed away. Behold, new things have come [because spiritual awakening brings a new life].”





Our old life—complete with regrets, hurts, and failures—is left behind, and we are given a fresh start, a new identity with a divine purpose.





God’s Masterpiece





God sees each of us as His unique masterpiece. 





Ephesians 2:10 reveals, “For we are His workmanship [His own master work, a work of art], created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand.” This means that you are an intentional creation, handcrafted by God with specific strengths, talents, and personality to carry out His work on earth.





Chosen and Called





1 Peter 2:9 affirms our special position in Christ: “You are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a consecrated nation, a [special] people for God’s own possession, so that you may proclaim the excellencies of Him who called you out of darkness into His marvelous light.”





This calling is significant. We are chosen by God not only to be His own but also to share His light and love with the world.





Living by Faith, Not By Our Own Strength





Living in Christ means surrendering our lives and plans to His. Galatians 2:20 explains, “I have been crucified with Christ; it is no longer I who live, but Christ lives in me.” Our identity is not self-built; it’s a divine exchange—our life for His.





God’s Purpose for Us





God’s Purpose for us





Discovering our identity naturally leads to understanding our purpose. We are not only God’s children but also His partners in fulfilling a greater purpose. Each one of us has a unique calling in the kingdom of God, a plan prepared by God Himself.





A Plan for Hope and a Future





Jeremiah 29:11 speaks directly to God’s intentions: “For I know the plans and thoughts that I have for you, says the Lord, ‘plans for peace and well-being and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.”





God’s purpose is not limited to our earthly existence but also includes eternal promises. His plans are rooted in love and ultimately aim to bring us into a closer relationship with Him, filled with hope and purpose.





Working Everything for Good





Life can sometimes feel random, and challenges may leave us wondering if our struggles serve any purpose. But Romans 8:28 assures us that “God causes all things to work together for good for those who love God, to those who are called according to His plan and purpose.”





Even in trials, we can trust that God is shaping and directing us toward His purpose.





Predestined for His Purpose





Ephesians 1:11-12 explains that we have been “predestined according to the purpose of Him who works everything in agreement with the counsel of His will.” God has mapped out a path uniquely designed for each of us to walk, highlighting that our lives have purpose beyond what we could imagine.










Living Out Our Identity and Purpose





To fully embrace our identity and purpose in Christ, we need to be intentional about how we live each day. Here are some practical steps:





    

  1. Seek God’s Presence Daily
    Set aside intentional time each day to connect with God. Whether through prayer, Bible reading, or worship, prioritizing Him helps us stay grounded in our true identity.
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  2. Embrace Your Unique Gifts
    God created you with specific gifts and talents. Embrace them and look for ways to use them in serving others and fulfilling your calling.
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  3. Trust God’s Plan
    Even when life is uncertain or doesn’t go as expected, trust that God’s purpose is at work. Proverbs 19:21 reminds us, “Many plans are in a man’s mind, but it is the Lord’s purpose for him that will stand.”
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  4. Live by Faith
    Pursue a life of faith, allowing Christ to lead. The world may prioritize self-reliance, but in God’s kingdom, our strength lies in our dependence on Him.
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Conclusion





In a fast-paced world filled with distractions, finding our true identity and purpose can be challenging. But by grounding ourselves in Christ, we can live each day with a sense of purpose, knowing we are chosen, loved, and uniquely equipped for the good works God has prepared for us.





As you navigate life, remember that your identity and purpose are secure in Christ. Embrace your new life in Him and the plans He has lovingly crafted for you. In doing so, you will not only find peace and fulfillment but also experience the joy of living out God’s design for your life.





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Mindset mastery 2: The Believer’s mindset
			

									
											
							
 
					

				

Success is never guaranteed with an inferior mindset.





Numerous business owners may seek to fine tune their products or go for a rebrand. Believers can likewise seek clarity in their calls, new levels or a new position of activity. Nevertheless, a fixed mindset may let them think things are what they have always been and accept circumstances continually.





The spiritual growth mindset is a growth mindset with God as the foundation. It’s God centered and tells you, “ You ’ve got this. You’re competent and intelligent, and through God, you can do well.”





We’re encouraged in Jeremiah 29 to seek God with all our heart, and Proverbs 3 assures us that He’ll set our paths straight if we trust in Him. These bible texts assure us as believers that we’ve a sense of direction when we trust God. We can be confident in his choices, timings, plans and purpose for our life.





Trust him even when it looks very little





Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and don’t lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he’ll make straight paths.
Proverb 3: 5-6 AMP





Challenges are a part of the growth process. The spiritual growth mindset understands we will face obstacles and challenges along the way, but we can be confident we will overcome the challenges. When you have God-confidence, you’re open to learn new things in order to achieve your aspirations.





People with God- confidence exhibit perseverance and put in the required efforts/ labour demanded to prevail.





One of the easiest ways to get your new year determinations on track is to cultivate a spiritual growth mindset. This helps you to align ideally to the mind of God for you this season. It’ll guide you from worrying about what is not necessary, order your priority and help you invest right.





It’s time to change your mindset, and renew your thoughts and ways of thinking. God never intended for us to live according to the world’s system and ways of doing things.





And do not be conformed to this world [any longer with its superficial values and customs], but be transformed and progressively changed [as you mature spiritually] by the renewing of your mind [focusing on godly values and ethical attitudes], so that you may prove [for yourselves] what the will of God is, that which is good and acceptable and perfect [in His plan and purpose for you].ROMANS 12:2





Everything starts with a thought. How you think determines how you live.





Success is never guaranteed with an inferior mindset. You must know who you are, and your identity can be completely discovered through the word of God and this will guide your choice’s as a believer.  Make a decision to become who God says you are. It doesn’t count what others think or say about you, it’s about how you see yourself.





You can change your world, If you can renew your mind and thoughts toward the things of God. Changing your mindset can change your circumstances because your mind is powerful. It has the power to bring life or bring ruin.





Joshua 1:7-9
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7 Only be strong and very courageous; be careful to do [everything] in accordance with the entire law which Moses My servant commanded you; do not turn from it to the right or to the left, so that you may prosper and be successful wherever you go. 

8 This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall read [and meditate on] it day and night, so that you may be careful to do [everything] in accordance with all that is written in it; for then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will be successful. 

9 Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous! Do not be terrified or dismayed (intimidated), for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go





Joshua 1:7-8 is a perfect illustration of how to change your mindset





1) be strong and brave,
2) be careful to observe the scriptures,
3) don’t turn from the scriptures,
4) don’t let the scriptures depart from your mouth, and
5) meditate on the Word of God day and night.





God is looking for people of faith.





Faith comes by hearing the Word of God. The more you hear, the more you believe. Get around people who talk faith and believe in God. Living a life of faith doesn’t come overnight, but if you commit to the Word, become a student of the Word, and begin to apply the Word to your situations and circumstances, change will come.





God honors people who have faith in Him. Stretch your faith. There’s greatness in you, and you’ll win.





I would encourage you to read through the scriptures, spend time in prayer reflecting on God’s Word, and take a deep dive into the application of the scriptures to uncover how God is calling you to apply His Word to your life. Keep an open mind and heart to what He reveals.





Spend quality time praying





Also, I would like to challenge you to spend time learning about the significance of mindset from a biblical lens. The Bible has much to say about healthy minds and thoughts. God’s Word teaches us how to take every study captive to Him. 





And, in doing so, He sets us free from anything that binds us. As you meditate on God’s Word, you’ll learn to rest in God, develop God- confidence and embrace a growth mindset anchored in faith.





God desires to work through you.





			

				

					
						

							

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Most people will passively do exactly what they did last year. Whatever you do, don’t let that person be you. 
Richie Norton





Numerous people aspire for change at the commencement of a new year without creating a space for growth.





One of the reasons why numerous new year’s resolutions fail is grounded on a wrong or fixed mindset.





Growth is an ineluctable part of life and Having a growth mindset (the belief that you’re in control of your capability, and can learn and improve) is the key to success







What a new year with no new exposure? What is a new year with no new task and responsibilities?
What a new year without a difference?







Having a “ growth mindset” has never been more important than it is now.
The world is changing at an incredibly fast pace, and there are new challenges we must face every day. This is why having a growth mindset is so necessary.





A new goal with an old mindset will be equal to an old result.





According to Carol Dweck, a researcher at Stanford University, there are two types of mindsets: a fixed mindset and a growth mindset.





“In a fixed mindset, people believe their qualities are fixed traits and therefore cannot change.”





“In a growth mindset, people have an underlying belief that their learning and intelligence can grow with time and experience.”





Having a “ growth mindset” means you understand that you can adjust or learn more, as long as you put in the effort. Having a growth mindset will encourage you to learn, adjust and evolve.





People with growth mindsets worry about actually learning and view disappointment as an occasion to learn. They tend to try harder to overcome the efforts. For example, a person with a fixed mindset may say they ’re not “ good with car washing” to avoid washing. While they can avoid failure and struggle with this reason, they’re putting off the opportunity to learn, grow, and develop a growth mindset.





A person with a growth mindset would be willing to attempt or risk trying, even if they struggle and fail during their first trial. People with growth mindsets see failures and lapses as an opportunity to grow.





Comfortability places restrictions on the mind and causes a poor attempt to new tasks.  A growth mindset would beget you to stretch yourself beyond comfort and constantly reach out to your goals and aspiration. 





Growth mindsets understand the significance of continuity and determination.





Are you ashamed of having a fixed mindset? Do you think you are not smart enough” Fixed mindsets lead you to avoid tasks where you may struggle or feel like a failure, If you find yourself saying things like “ I’m not good with math, so I can’t try, you might have a fixed mindset?





Developing a growth mindset isn’t only a better way to learn but also a better way to live. The single most important thing you can ever do to help you achieve success is to cultivate a growth mindset. This may not be an easy task but it surely worth the time and effort.





Accepting that your abilities and intelligence can be developed allows you to explore, experience, and achieve more in life. 







Cultivate seeing criticisms as blessing from others.







Nevertheless, While learning, view challenges as openings to growth. Try to review what failure means to you, and remember that patience and tolerance is crucial.





The moment we believe that success is determined by an ingrained level of ability as opposed to resilience and hard work, we will be brittle in the face of adversity.
Joshua Waitzkin





This year, Go after your fears





 Stretch beyond comfort





 Make an excuse to go beyond  your limitations 





And, show up for your goals and aspiration.





A failure to take precise and deliberate action is the reason why so many New Year’s resolutions and other goals fail. 
Jordan Ring





One resolution I have made, and try always to keep, is this: To rise above the little things. 
John Burroughs





			

				

					
						

							

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Occasionally life’s twists and turns can make you forget what’s really important. After a hard day at work, sensitive monetary situation, or a big loss, you can lose sight of the important stuff like your health, and the love you share with confidants and family.





That’s why it’s important to have a strong faith. Your faith and trust in God will help you stay motivated, reach your plans, and come out triumphant on the other side.





Even so, always remember that”God never said that the journey would be easy, but He did say that the arrival would be worthwhile.





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“You are not alone. God understands what you’re going through and has promised to be with you in every trail of life.”
Anonymous





For many folks, life could also be a struggle. Unless you’re lucky, you will have periods in your life where things won’t go your way, and it will be difficult to induce through these periods. We all struggle but for some, that struggle is extremely hard to manage.





There are a lot of struggles lately, the battle of what to undertake and do at a very moment when everyone expects from you, and you’ve got countless pressures.I’ve struggled loads over the past couple of years and it is not a fairytale experience.I struggle daily. With my thoughts, my psychological state, myself





While walking on campus on a particular day, I attempted to conclude something that looked like it thereafter; I became nervous and had an ill feeling towards that decision, but before I could place importance on my feelings. I heard a voice call out my fears and warranted me there is not anywhere I’m going he won’t be with me.





‘I will be with you; I will never leave you nor forsake you.’ ~ Joshua 1:5





At that moment I remember I wasn’t alone, that the father(God) is most interested in all the little print of my life including those yet to figure out.





God is within you, you will not fail





Dear reader, Life comes with different phases, times and seasons that differ to each one of us. Yes, there are times  I have felt exhausted trying to make efforts, times have been overwhelmed with fear, doubt and uncertainty and lose sight of God’s presence.





Amid these trying times and Uncertainty, the scriptures never changed a small amount from the reality that I am and can never be alone.





“Knowing that you’re not alone really does make all the difference in the world. “
Norman Hamilton





Beloved, God knows your past, your future and he’s fully aware of where you are coming from, the fears, doubt, and uncertainty, and he wants to hold your hands through life to prove his words that He will never leave nor forsake us, rather he will go before you.





Isaiah 43:2 Amplified Bible “When you pass through the waters, I will be with you;And through the rivers, they will not overwhelm you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be scorched,Nor will the flame burn you.





There are times you may experience loneliness, a phase where everyone seems to not understand you, and trust could also be broken, but there’s someone out there who cares for you and understands your silence over your words.





In times like that, we have got a word of assurance and reality that God will never leave nor forsake us.





Always remember, God is so curious about giving beauty to your ashes and crafting a reasonable story from your struggles. Not minding how ordinary or helpless you feel you’re, you’re special to God





“You are not alone and this is not the end of your story.”
Anonymous





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Sometimes, people confuse joy with Happiness. Happiness is characterized by good luck or fortune. This suggests that when there’s misfortune, happiness disappears and misery sets in – it’s momentary





However, this is often not the case with believers’ joy; even when there’s a misfortune, the person remains joyful. Certainly, the person acknowledges the mishap but isn’t moved or discouraged by it. Joy within the Spirit boosts one’s resilience. 





Happiness is a state, not a trait; in other words, it isn’t a long-lasting, permanent feature or personality trait, but a more fleeting, changeable state, meaning that happiness is not to be confused with joy.





I choose joy





Joy is the settled assurance that God is in control of all the details of my life, the quiet confidence that ultimately everything is going to be alright and the determined choice to praise God in every situation. 
Rick Warren





The scriptures made us understand we might undergo trials, tests, difficult times, and challenging moments in life, but as believers we have an assurance that things will end up good because our father is loving and he has overcome the world that we may defeat the trials and challenges in it. He has deposited the seed of joy in us, and it enables us to be optimistic and not lose our identity in face of difficulties. 





The seed of joy need to be cultivated in us as believers. Without it, we might lose our hope in difficult times. 





Joy as a fruit of the spirit must be expressed in our lives as believers. The Joy of the Lord births happiness, not in a temporary state but everlasting in nature. If you aren’t joyful you are likely to become an unhappy fellow. Joyful people express happiness. 





Rejoice within the Lord always [delight, gladden yourselves in Him]; again I say, Rejoice! Philippians 4:4





Staying joyful gives us hope and keeps us in faith. It opens us to the mindset that God has the capacity to do whatever we seek his intervention for according to his will.





Pay attention to the state of your mind always, you can choose Joy regardless of the happenings around you.
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Hey reader! Welcome back to my blog, You are cherished, you are valued and I love you just the way you are.










Comparison is a consideration or estimate of the similarities or differences between two things or people. Comparison is something we often do as humans. It may be on a positive note or negative note.





I tried comparing myself with friends and realized if I dwell on our differences or odds I may never be happy with myself.





While comparison atimes encourages us to be better, it may also create unhealthy feeling and if not guided against may lead to feeling less of yourself.





If you choose to live by comparison you may not get to know your Strength and weaknesses because you are aiming to be someone else and might end up with a competitive mindset.





You may have someone who has successfully attained the height you wish to and may want to emulate them. But, never forget that you are different, such that though you want to achieve what they are, you don’t get carried away with the pressure of wanting to work things out just the way they did.







You are different and exceptional. Celebrate your uniqueness.







Understand that you are a different personality and strive to be the best version of yourself  not another person.





For example, If as a fat person I saw a nice gown on a slim lady, I can’t put on her gown, I can only sew mine with my measurements and make sure it suits my body.





In a different way, because am fat the style may not be good for me and may not look how it is on a slim person or lady.





In this scenario, my aim is to sew the same style but I did have to cut in a different length and measurement to get the desired result.





When comparing, always remind yourself you are a different person and unique in your own way.







By comparing ourself with others we tend to be impatient and not discover ourself or celebrate our uniqueness.







We must guide against comparison, as it is most time self destructive, creates feelings to make us unworthy or less than others.





As believers we may have to wait on God for some changes, new things, during this period do not be overwhelmed with comparison.
Stay in Joy





We must learn to trust, believe in and cling to God even as we expect our miracles, not by growing weary, fainting or yielding to envy and jealousy , embrace positive comparison and learn new ways also without creating an unhealthy mindsets.





Celebrate your uniqueness!







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Hey reader! Good to have you read from my blog this time. In today’s post I will be sharing with you some life lessons I learnt from the wisdom teeth.





Sometime ago, I noticed I was having frequent pain on my teeth, so I thought about been consistent with brushing twice daily and I was doing well.





After a while the pain became serious that it was difficult for me to bite, chew or open my mouth. I had swellings, pain in the jaw and sleepless night due to the pain and had to visit a hospital to see a dentist.





After the check, she mentioned that my wisdom teeth was growing and explained that the wisdom teeth are called wisdom teeth because they’re the last teeth to emerge. And we are known to be wiser through it emergence.





She mentioned that all of the teeth a person will ever have are present at birth, higher up in the skull structure. First, a set of 20 baby teeth erupts and falls out, then 32 permanent teeth grows in. 





The first set of molars usually becomes visible at age 6, the second set around 12, and the final set (wisdom teeth) sometime before age 21.





She emphasised the fact that I ought to grow the teeth before 21 and that if our wisdom teeth are hurting, it could simply be them growing in. When they break through the gums it can cause pain, slight swelling and soreness. 





Impacted Tooth: If a wisdom tooth becomes impacted it can cause swelling, pain when chewing or biting, pain in the jaw and difficulty opening your mouth.





Impacted Tooth: If a wisdom tooth becomes impacted it can cause swelling, pain when chewing or biting, pain in the jaw and difficulty opening your mouth.





And, If the pain persists to Age 25, they may have to remove the teeth or the gum. She explained in medical terms tho, But your favorite writer can’t remember….. She prescribed medications to relieve the pain and I was much better in two days.





A friend got to know I was just growing wisdom teeth and was a bit surprised, we ended up joking about it that am still a Teenegar and in my sweet seventeen’s.





At the end of the conversation I thought about it that many of my friends had grown wisdom teeth at age 17 and 18, and mine is a bit different.





For some minutes, I felt like why would I have a setback with something so common at a particular age amidst peers?





I reminded myself immediately I was a different person, a unique personality and special in my own ways.





Lessons learnt





First, I realized as humans we can’t change everything, and we can’t control some circumstances or situations but can only work on how we see it or feel about some happenings.





As humans it is important to identify the parts of our lives that we can change and what we cannot. I can’t control when my teeth should grow and if I start to beat myself up because I had it late or create an inferiority mindset from it, I will definitely be unhappy because I have not chosen to accept that I can’t change when my teeth should grow.





Many people are unhappy today because they do not accept the things, situations or circumstances that they cannot change or have no control over. As a result many are depressed, frustrated, dissapionted and suffers.





There are many things we have control over, we can change our friends when we like, we can decide a dress isn’t good for us anymore and get a new one. You can decide to break-up from a relationship if you aren’t happy anymore.





Some of the things we can’t control as humans are:





The past





Don’t be stucked in trying to fix the past and rob yourself of enjoying the Present.





What other people think, feel or say about us.





Trying to please everyone or prove to everyone who you are to gain acceptance may be a sign of low self-esteem. You can’t please everyone!





Weather.





As humans we don’t have control on what weather condition we want for the day. If it rains heavily , we may have to change our schedules atimes but not the weather.





If because it raining we keep complaining and leave what can be done while it raining and focus on the complaint to wait for the rain to stop then we have not learnt to accept situations we can’t control and how to deal with them effectively.





Traffic.





Many drivers get impatient on road traffic but the truth is you can’t burn the cars ahead of you, neither can you ride on them. You either choose to follow a New route with no traffic (if there is) or stay calm till you can move.





As humans we must learn to be positive in any situation we are in, accept what it is and focus on approaching the situation in a positive manner and approach. We must also learn not to give up or feel inferior when will experience setbacks. We should be hopeful and understand it timing we definitely come.

			

		
	
	

					
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Sometime ago while studying a chapter from the scriptures (Matthew 2) I discovered an unimaginable truth contrary to our general opinions and popular teachings from the chapter.





The chapter tells about the birth of Jesus Christ and how King Herod was so eager to visit the new born King and sought that the wise men search diligently for the young child with a reason that he wants to come and worship Him. 





Smiles, one of our popular Christmas story series. Let’s see a verse from the chapter….





and he sent them to Bethlehem and said,Go and search diligently for the Young child;and when ye have found him, bring me word again,that I may come and worship him also. Matthew 2:8 KJV





That sounds interesting,true and relieving right, What!Am still alive and not planning to die soon was what I expected(laughing).Tho troubled he choose to act nice and be a perfect gentleman so we can judge that he has a good heart and doesn’t deserve to be disrespected which automatically would drive the wise men to report back to him after the search right?





As good as this sounds, when the wise men discovered where Jesus Christ is the scriptures in verse 12 tells that “being warned of God in a dream that they should not return to Herod they departed into their own country another way.”





Dear reader,with a new level comes a new devil, there always will be opposition,opponent, unhappy people at the rise of a new you, ideas or promotion and whatever height will attain daily or decision to be great we choose. It very important we seek to receive direction, instruction and hear God in everything we do.





I understand we have mentors, friends, leaders and authorities over us of which we have to be obedient to and atimes can give wrong counsels and instructions knowingly or unknowingly, atimes we loose focus listening to man’s voice, in our best thinking we think it the best, I might loose my job if I don’t do it, I don’t have any option, I just have to change the figures as ordered by my boss , Little do we understand it a trap to destruction.





It either you choose to listen to God’s voice and adhere strictly or choose the voice of men and miss God’s intentions and plan forus.





Remember, King Herod acted like he had no bad intention,This days out of selfishness there are humans who appear, talk and counsel us from there mouth not there heart and because we’ve been friends for long we trust and entrust our life to them forgetting the creator who sees and search the heart of man, we are too quick to seek advice from them to waiting patiently to hear what God’s intent is to us.





Each day you choose to satisfy your environment or please people by leaving God aside, you’ve only chosen to live and act less of who you’ve been accustomed to be.





Following God’s routes or the right route to exhibit a plan may not be easy, there may be false accusations, rejections and lonely times once you choose to do things in right or a different way, but always bear in mind that obeying God’s voice will save your feets off troubles.





For I know the thoughts that I think toward you,saith the Lord, thoughts of peace, and not of evil, to give you an expected end. Jeremiah 29:11, KJV





Don’t be carried away with the noise around you. Recognize, listen and choose to obey God’s voice.





Scrutinize all advice and ideas by God testing(checking if it in line with God’s standard through his word) before applying them.





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Hey reader, Today’s post is quite long but of great lessons, please endeavor to read to the end. 





I guess you are eager to understand what it means to start the year blue, you’re probably thinking I want to start a blue color campaign. Maybe it is or not, continue reading.





The blue color is popular, and mostly used in airlines, hospitals, and large companies and it is popularly known as men’s favorite.





Well, am not a man but a lady with blue color as my favorite because it has a cool calming effect on black skin girls like me.










The blue color is known to signify, Loyalty, Confidence, Stability, Faith, Intelligence, Strength, Wisdom, and Trust.





The blue color is a sky color that shows how well we desire to be successful and to be on top of the world, it is a sea color that signifies peace.





But we can’t deny the fact that we have different shades of blue which aren’t to be written about today. We all understand the sky gets dark especially at night, a time cloudy, sometimes dark with shining stars, and times no star.





Each shade has its meaning and information it pass across. Times when the sky is dark or cloudy it indicate stormy situations in our life as humans and when it blue, it signifies Peace.





Friends, as we walk and work through the year there will be days we are up and strong (Blue moments) and there will be days we are hopeless, discouraged, impatient, and bothered about tomorrow and the future.





Days we may lose interest in the beautiful things we intend doing and the year seems not worth witnessing. These are the day’s blue color is now a mixture of black and darkness that seems to overshadow it.





Each time this occurs you need to be determined to live and get the blue by staying positive and optimistic (hopeful and confident) about the future.





Don’t try to switch your color to black, be focused on the positive part, and stay true to your identity.





Remember, For a new level there always will be a new devil. For each phase of life, there is always a mountain to climb.





Let see how the blue color significance relates to us having a prosperous year.





Strength





“Philippians 4:13 For I can do everything through Christ, who gives me STRENGTH.” The blue color represents strength therefore believe you are strengthened to overcome challenges, the scriptures stated clearly you can do all things through Christ who strengthens you.





Faith





“Luke 17:6 The Lord answered, “If you had FAITH even as small as a mustard seed, you could say to this mulberry tree, ‘May you be uprooted and be planted in the sea,’ and it would obey you!”. Faith here gives a natural capacity that enables you to trust and believe.





 Confidence





Be confident, never allow fear to limit you, be confident that Christ’s strength is enabled in you and you can do the unimaginable. 





Matthew 6:34 “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”





Wisdom





Wisdom





Proverbs 2:12 “WISDOM will save you from evil people, from those whose words are twisted.” Apply wisdom in all your doings. 





Trust





Proverbs 3:5TRUST in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your understanding.





Let your eyes be fixed, don’t be distracted by so many options around you, you can always trust God.





Loyalty





“Psalms78:8 They would not be like their ancestors a stubborn and rebellious generation, whose hearts were not loyal to God, whose spirits were not faithful”. 





Stability





“James:6-7 But he must ask in faith, without doubting, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. 7That man should not expect to receive anything from the Lord.” Stability, To experience stability in 2020, Never allow doubt and fear to rule you, Fuel your heart with faith, not fear.





Finally,





Rejoicing in Trials





(Philippians 1:2-8)





2Consider it pure joy, my brothers, when you encounter trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. 4Allow perseverance to finish its work, so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.





5Now if any of you lacks wisdom, he should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to him. 6But he must ask in faith, without doubting, because he who doubts is like a wave of the sea, blown and tossed by the wind. 7That man should not expect to receive anything from the Lord. 8He is a double-minded man, unstable in all his ways.





You are created by God (love) and loved by Him, Reciprocate love, Live it, Receive it, show it and demonstrate it. 





Welcome to the blue era 





I love you





Oluwatosin Adegoke.





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Dwelling under a roof named earth





Each day we look up to the sky to see if the day is up





For we know it full of colours,shades which works with time and seasons





Atimes dark, Atimes cloudy





And atimes blue,





For each day we see the sky blue we are certain to get the best of it,





But when it cloudy and dark, uncertainty sets in,which might indicate stormy situations in our life as humans.





Tho the sky stays dark atimes it never remains dark





Bad day’s aren’t permanent, the roof may be dark and cloudy today





Tommorow bright, and blue





Never be overwhelmed with the thought of what’s not working out





Live each day as tho it blue and be ready to get the best of all moments.





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Welcome to the blue era





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What defines you as a believer?





Dear reader,





Thanks for choosing to read from the king delight. Have a great read!





The more we focus on who we are in Christ, the less it matters who we were in the past, or even what happened to us.We do not behave out of our identity, we behave out of our understanding of our identity in Christ. Shelley Hendrix





Many of us have been defined by circumstances, what people think, and past occurrences. You need to understand that you can’t live beyond what you see yourself as.





How we see ourself determines how far we can go in life, it tells how will treat ourself and helps us to create gaps for unhealthy situations, approach, and interactions.





We are made in the likeness of His image and our identity should conform to what he says about us.





There’s need to consciously search and meditate on the scriptures to be fully aware of our identity, live it, and not be carried away by what people say or think.





Your identity should not be built on position, certifications, achievements, skills, or roles in partnership and relationships, the day these things become non-valuable to you, you may begin to struggle for acceptance.





As a believer, You don’t need to struggle for acceptance, you’ve been accepted by Christ.





If you read through Ephesians 1, you will discover some unhealthy identity we may have, Like, Feeling orphaned instead of Adoption, Rejected instead of accepted, and In bondage instead of covered by grace.





Some people form their identity by their service or the works they do for the Lord.





If we still think we are under the law, we may subdue ourselves in ministry or service or other good works to feel as though you are in good standing with God instead of resting in his love and work on the Cross.





We may think it is what we do for God that dictates us or should be what we should be addressed as or recognized with, No it should not be





Our identity should be solely on how God sees us and not how we see ourselves.







Our identity should be solely on how God sees us, not how we see ourselves.





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Living our God identity would give us the freedom to live confidently. It will help us to experience God’s love for us in new ways. It will also make us bold to share Christ’s love with all.





If we live base on how God sees us, we would not need to find our worth in circumstances, positions, titles, or based on external things.





To consciously live the reality of how God sees us may be quite challenging as we live in a world that seeks to define us by its standard. But It is a challenge which if embraced or engaged in, could impact everything about us.





A simple suggestion on how to live this reality is to make biblical confessions and boldly declare it daily to yourself till you come to the full understanding of who you are in Christ Jesus and living it.





Here are some Truth on who you are from the scriptures





I am the salt of the earth and the light of the world (see Matt. 5:13-14).





I am an heir of God and a joint-heir with Jesus Christ (see Rom. 8:17).





I am part of a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, and a people for God’s possession (see 1 Pet. 2:9).





I am a member of the body of Christ (see 1 Cor. 12:27).





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Tips on building healthy and Purposeful friendship
			

									
											
							
 
					

				



Building healthy and Purposeful friendship





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Show me your friend, and I will tell you how close you are to succeed.






As a teenager, I had learned to consciously and deliberately choose friends. I remember while preparing for university, advice from a brother to me was to choose my friends wisely.








Friend’s can either make or mar you, choose wisely.






Who you associate with determines a lot about you. You may wonder what your friends have to do with your life or what you are becoming. 





The kind of people you hang out with influence you in all spheres of living. The categories of people you relate with times determine your appearance, thought (patterns of thinking), behaviors, and decision.








True and growing friendship is built-in on the unity of mind and agreement.





When you walk with people of like minds and dreams, It expose you to knowledge and opportunities that foster the reality of your goals, purpose, and dreams.








Be careful who you relate with, and who you choose as friends.





What do you spend time doing with your friends?
What do you talk or discuss?
What do you do when you are together?
How does he/she see things?
Does he/she see the same way?
Are we growing together or apart?





If you spend time gossiping, you end up a gossip expert!





Spend time investing in your future by adding values through effective and productive communication that prepares you to fit for purpose.





Do not hold to a friendship that lacks positive value to you morally, verbally, in character development, spiritual and other areas of life.





Positive associations bring positive impact, influence, and results.
Choose wisely.
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Tips on how to deal with Peer pressure
			

									
											
							
 
					

				

Have you ever made a decision, and a while felt it wasn’t right? Left to you, you may not have welcomed the idea? That is it! Peer pressure





What is peer influence?





In a more friendly tone, Peer pressure is Peer influence. Peer influence is when you choose to do something you wouldn’t otherwise do because you want to feel accepted and valued by your friends. 





Peer pressure ( influence ) can either be positive or negative. For example, during my secondary school days, I had to discipline myself to study hard because my friends and I want an excellent remark on all our subjects. I can’t afford to be the black sheep. Peer pressure or influence can also be in a negative form. A friend once narrated how he wanted to feel among by taking a glass of alcohol during his secondary school days.





Difference between positive and negative influence.





Positive influence drives you to be better, focused, aim, and pursue your goals and aspirations. Negative peer influence times distract you from what matters to you. It makes you practice what isn’t appealing to you.





Many teenagers face pressure to give in to negative influence and need knowledge on how to kick against it.





Positive influence drives you to be better, focused, aim, and pursue your goals and aspirations. Negative peer influence most times distracts you from what matters to you. It makes you practice what isn’t appealing to you.





Below are six tips on how to deal with Peer pressure or influence.





Tips on how to deal with Peer pressure





  1. Identify your interest; Identify the things that drive you to become better, your gifts, talents, and potentials. It helps you to choose the right set of peers.
  2. Recognize unhealthy situations and keep away from them.
  3. Set boundaries; Define your do’s and don’t and yield to discipline yourself.
  4. Learn to say No to excuse yourself from negative ideas or suggestions creatively. For example, I don’t have much interest in it. It a good idea tho I won’t love to be a part.
  5. Respect other people’s opinions; Don’t try to force your thoughts on your peer. Respect their opinion but don’t give in to it if negative.
  6. Spend time with people who respect your decision.





Conclusion.





As a teenager, if you will be yielding to peer pressure, it should be on a positive side. If you have friends who influence your thoughts, plans, and aspirations positively, don’t be far from them.

			

		
	
	

					
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How to deal with Rejection
			

									
											
							
 
					

				

Rejection is a significant source of pain for many of us. While some enjoy rejection, some will not love to suffer rejection.





What is Rejection?





Rejection is an act of being rejected or an act of not accepting something or someone. Jesus faced many challenges, including rejection from His community while on earth.





Matthew 13: 53- 57





53 When Jesus had finished these parables,(B) he moved on from there. 54 Coming to his hometown, he began teaching the people in their synagogue,(C) and they were amazed. (D) “Where did this man get this wisdom and these miraculous powers?” they asked. 55 “Isn’t this the carpenter’s son? (E) Isn’t his mother’s(F) name Mary, and aren’t his brothers(G) James, Joseph, Simon, and Judas? 56 Aren’t all his sisters with us? Where then did this man get all these things?” 57 And they took offense(H) at him. But Jesus said to them, “A prophet is not without honor except in his town and his own home.”(I) 58 And he did not do many miracles there because of their lack of faith.





The scriptures stated that He could not perform many miracles there because of their lack of faith.





People from his community had doubts about him. No one believed him, they narrated his background to each other and felt he doesn’t worth the works they see him do.





So many of us have been wounded by those we love, family, and friends by rejection.





How do you handle rejection?





1 Learn to consistently reject rejections by choosing to see yourself from the light of who God says you are, whom he has called you to be, and what you are to do.





2 People will love to remind, what your background looks like, mistakes, flaws, weaknesses, and past to make you feel you are not capable or fit for some things.





If you find yourself often being rejected by peers, you need to shake off the rejection and move on with life by not allowing their view to overcoming yours.





3 Christ’s love for you is unconditional, so embrace the love of God and head towards to Live your goal. Don’t try to prove to people all because you want to be accepted. 





4 Don’t try to please people by doing what they think or want. The only way to overcome negative rejections is to Walk away from it. Don’t give in to pressure.





5 Associate with people who respect your decisions and are willing to help you live your christ ordained path(purpose).





Conclusion





Regardless of where rejection is coming from, you have to learn to handle it right.

			

		
	
	

					
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Memories
			

									
											
							
 
					

				

You and I have memories longer than the road that stretches out ahead. Some days won’t be long like we thought, they come as shades, and fade away so fast. Tho the doors are full of web, cos the less we curb, the more we see. The memories determines what will feel when the days are gone.





If wishes were roses, I would wish the memories were as beautiful as the smiles. But the cobwebs were too great to rid off, cos the more we curb, the less we see.





And, as the drama unfolds, our antagonist became weak, clamours for freedom with no wisdom. In a bid to revive it own nature, he lost it self dignity and worth.





There were many claps to it roars from the beginning but as the consequence approached, the protagonist grew stronger. For the day of reckoning is soon to come.





Memories are timeless treasures of the heart. Life holds many simple blessings to bear us a smile daily.





If wishes were horses, I would wish the memories are real like we sometimes think they should.





Good times or bad days, Take a selfless pill to create good feelings. Never ruin good memories with a moment of uncertainty. People change, memories don’t.





Good days or bad days, Take a selfless pill to create good feelings to folks around





Things end but memories last forever.





© Oluwatosin Adebimpe





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Stronger than you think
			

									
											
							
 
					

				

“Life is very interesting. In the end, some of your greatest pains become your greatest strengths.”
– Drew Barrymore






Everything can be taken away from you including your dignity, But the power to choose what attitude you have toward the traumatic events that have happened to you will never be taken away‍‍.





Beyond the pain in life,there is always a silver lining and light at the end of the tunnel.





Dear reader,
When the glowing stops glowing, And the glooms and boom gets glume. 





We there be a triller to pull your triggers off. We there be a switch to control our turns and fix our paths to focus on light. We know not when the stars are fixed to shine without struggles, but they appear in the dark.















Better days are near! Don’t give up





© Oluwatosin Adegoke.






			

		
	
	

					
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Closer than a brother
			

									
											
							
 
					

				

Proverb 18:24 A man that hath many friends must show himself friendly, but there is a friend that sticks closer than a brother.





While growing up, I had a friend, whom a fateful day walked up to me and said we aren’t friends anymore because she found a new friend. This happened not long after she noticed something she does and thought would be reciprocated by me, of which I had no idea. We both had not learned that everyone is different and unique in their way.






The event changed lot about me and was a bit traumatic. I tried to build a friendship with fellow mates but to no avail. I struggled with low self-esteem and became a loner with many people around.






Each time I try to talk amidst peers and remember the event coupled with a reality that it had many eyewitnesses. I withdraw from conversations and choose to watch because I feel I do not have a say.
I lost trust in everyone because I felt she knew me better. I could not welcome help from anyone or embrace friendship from the ones willing.






I lost myself trying to please everyone, and it lasted than I could ever thought. I had not come to understand JESUS is one whom I can confide in, trust and have a real friendship with!!! (gist for another read )






Many people still struggle with this and have no idea how to go about it.
Healing from various life issues and experiences do not jump on us. Most especially pains rooted in broken relationships (friendship).
It starts from somewhere!





Here’s a note to you from a brother and friend. Nkidom Daniel





Dearest reader!






Have you ever been betrayed, disrespected, and bullied by friends? Or have you been rejected, ridiculed, and unfairly treated by them?
Are you trying to please, appeal, and dance to their tune to gain their acceptance?
Are you trying to feel wanted and be among a circle?





These causes loneliness, moodiness, even down to depression. We all need a friend to talk to, someone to gist, and share our burdens.






Other times, you might need a friend to confide in, someone to advise and not judge you, a friend to help and support you, But no one seems close or available to help!. And trust me, this can be very frustrating and demoralizing.






Because it creates a vacuum in the heart, it makes the soul-sick and the spiritual longing for companionship!!!
Over time it makes us withdraw from people and affect our self-esteem.
You may ask how did I know
I’ve been in this situation and have walked on this lane!
But you know what?
There was a turning point! There was great help!





A good friend with a big heart stepped in. Jesus chose to fill the vacuum and made me be among His circles. He lifted the burdens and took away the hurdles!






Proverb 18:24 makes us understand that “A man that hath many friends must show himself friendly, but there is a friend that sticks closer than a brother.”





He never breaks a heart. Neither does he disappoint and abandon his friends.






Esteem reader,
All is not gloom, life is not doom.
Don’t be dismayed. There is still a friend to you. There is someone you can trust. Jesus craves to have you in his circle!





Invite him into your circle. He will stick closer! And will remain forever!
Selah!
(This is to anyone heartbroken, lonely, and depressed)
Storyline by Oluwatosin Adebimpe Adegoke

			

		
	
	

					
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Dealing with fear, worry and anxiety
			

									
											
							
 
					

				

Fear is an emotion or feeling of panic or nervousness that hits us mostly when we think of doing something new. We are usually very motivated and excited at the start of a new project.





As we begin to make plans and progress, the thought of what if (fears or anxiety) set In. In these moments, we begin to have pessimistic views about what we want to do.





Fear is a spirit that produces feelings. Studies have shown that the biggest problem in people’s lives is fear.





Many of us struggle with anxiety. Every time God puts new ideas or visions in our hearts, there is always an opposing phase. God calls us to a new level, and for every new level, there’s a new challenge. Accompanying this new challenge is a choice to either have faith and move ahead regardless of what is thrown at you or sit back and nurture your fears.





Sometimes, circumstances may want to stir up fear because things happening do not look like what God has promised you. 





Remember, the bible says in 2Tim.1.7 For God has not given us a spirit of fear but of power and love and a sound mind.





Fear is one of the enemy’s most popular weapons that he uses against us. Worry, anxiety, and fear can overwhelm us with a thick shadow of darkness, controlling our every move and decisions. Yet reality tells us that so much of what we spend our time worrying about never even happens. Living under the weight of the “what if’s” is a hard place to dwell.





Be bold and courageous





Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid; do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God will be with you wherever you go. Joshua 1:9





Seize the opportunity to grow





A times God allows difficult circumstances in our lives because he is trying to reveal something that needs to be strengthened or changed in us. Confront your fears, Take flight, Face your fears, face the situation, don’t run away from it.





Starve your fears, feed your faith.  It strengthens us to keep pressing forward regardless of what lies around us





Walk with God





Following God is often like walking in a fog. We can only see one or two steps in front of us, but as we take those step, the next become clearer.





So do not fear, for I am with you;do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Isaiah 41:10





Shift your focus from what if to what is.





Philippians 4:8, NIV: “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable–if anything is excellent or praiseworthy–think about such things.





We can defeat fear by choosing to be courageous, choosing to keep pressing forward while the feeling of fear is present





The basis for not allowing fear is knowing and believing God is with us in all we do. We can defeat fear by choosing to be courageous, choosing to keep pressing forward while the feeling of fear is present. 





Think about excellence not fear





If we want to do anything significant, we have to be determined to face our fears and never give up on our dreams.





 It’s not always easy, and it often comes down to a choice:





•Choosing not to allow fear and anxiety to control your life.





•Choosing to guard your heart.





•Choosing to focus your mind on what is true amid uncertain times.





Conclusion





We might still feel afraid, but we can believe that God is with us. We may not be in control, but we can trust the One who is. We may not know the future, but we can trust the God who does.





Remember, His words are “life” words, soothing to our soul, calming to our spirits, giving power to our days.





Stay strong.

			

		
	
	

					
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Tips on handling Change or Transition
			

									
											
							
 
					

				


Transition can be defined as a movement from one state, condition, or circumstance to another.





Change is inevitable. There are different heights to the issues we experience daily as humans. Times we are prompted to do things differently (out of the box).





Change may vary from simplicity to complexity. It may be as simple as relocating to a new environment, loosing or increasing body weight, Promotion at a workplace, or the unexpected loss of a friend and family member. Some of these changes are what you might have experienced and will still experience.










Learn to adjust yourself to the conditions you have to endure, but make a point of trying to alter or correct conditions so that they are most favorable to you. –William Frederick Book
















Many country was locked down for months due to the effect of the Coronavirus (COVID-19) outbreak. All economic and non-economic activities on hold.





 Our daily routines and activities disrupted, and we had no option than to stay indoors.





Another change due to the outbreak was  keeping close physical contact with friends, family, relatives, and Associates can be risky.





We need to understand that change affects every aspect of our lives. It may be positive or negative. But many of us probably aren’t as well equipped to deal with changes as we think.





Here are a few tips on embracing change with positivity.





Accept the situations and approach them with the readiness of the mind.





We must learn to accept situations and approach them with the readiness of mind. Do not avoid changes that seem to have a negative impact, Face it.





Consciously make time to work out your thought pattern





Our thoughts control us. It is the way you picture things in your mind you often get to see it happen. Practice mindfulness and watch your thoughts.





Identify who you are





The way to regain confidence in seasons of change is by identifying and consciously reminding ourselves who we are, our values, and worth. Who you think you are should not be built on tittles, positions, circumstances, material things, or income, but majorly on a positive self-thought and image.





Stay positive





To stay positive, we would have to challenge all thoughts on negativity and repeatedly confess positive things.





Take a break
Take a break. It may be necessary times to heal and be confident. Take a break from things that stress you and harmful to your emotional health.





Try new things
For a time like this, you can try new things, add skills through courses online.





Conclusion
No matter what happens, the change will happen, embrace positivity, and always be intentional to learn and make the most of it.






			

		
	
	

					
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Overcoming Distraction
			

									
											
							
 
					

				




“When you are able to overcome distractions, then you will be able to do something more specific, something more precise and definite with the time that you have.” Sunday Adelaja





A little wander in our thought to embrace doubt, anxiety, and worry can get us distracted and make us lose our focus faster than we can think of.





We need to be conscious of the little things that separate us from God, his will, and standards. One of the easy tips of the devil to draw us away from God is a distraction.





Distraction is a state of being distracted or a rearranged state of mind. It a state in which our attention diverts from possibility, solution, and our thoughts majors on what could have been and how it must be even when things seem not working out.





If Jesus had sat and worried about what the pain at the cross would be, He might have chosen not to bear our burdens and reject the Masters will, but He endured the cross, disregarding its shame and now seated at the right hand of the throne of God. The victory that comes after trials, pains, and challenges are always beyond the pain.





If we keep pondering on our struggles and troubles, we would compound our problems and create room for anxiety. Immediately Peter got distracted (shifted his thought pattern) when walking on water with Jesus he starts to sink.





Each time life seems unbearable, the right seems hard to do or follow, we should always remember he doesn’t give to our hand what we cannot handle.





“Hebrews 12:2 says”





Looking away [from all that will distract] to Jesus, Who is the Leader and the Source of our faith [giving the first incentive for our belief] and is also its Finisher [bringing it to maturity and perfection]. He, for the joy [of obtaining the prize] that was set before Him, endured the cross, despising and ignoring the shame, and is now seated at the right hand of the throne of God.





We must choose to understand in trying times that he will make a way and that He is faithful and will never allow us to be tempted beyond our ability.








“Doubt distracts, and through doubt comes fear, and fear gives an option to quit at the rise of new challenges.” Oluwatosin Adebimpe Adegoke





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